I find that lately there’s been so much talk about masculinity and femininity. However, the view seems a bit skewed. Women who display strength or who may seem hard and guarded are deemed as masculine and men who cry or show too much emotion are seen as feminine. How have we allowed these two words to be used against us in such a negative way?
Instead we must understand that emotions do not solely belong to ONE SEX. These are all HUMAN emotions. We all experience them both, but society drives a divide between even the sexes convincing us that we should be limited in our emotions. Truth is, we all FEEL, emotions are natural, both men AND women experience trauma which manifests itself in many ways. Therefore, we must first create safe spaces to heal ourselves so that we can become safe spaces for one another...and THAT sounds like harmony.
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I love the way you put this. masculinity and femininity, like reality, is relative. too many people try to apply a concrete definition to an ideal and its sad.
I wholeheartedly agree with your take! Indeed, all emotions can and should be experienced by men and women. Speaking from a man’s perspective, I have personally witnessed the consequences of a man not being able to effectively express how he feels for fear of being seen as “soft”. It’s a longstanding unwritten rule that has always seemed ridiculous to me. Men have a history of dying early, mainly because they’ve lacked an outlet for releasing built-up worldly tensions and bottling emotions and feelings inside.
I am all for building safe spaces for everyone to express without fear of being called too hard or too soft. It’s going to take people with open minds to become “martyrs”, so to speak. Luckily, men like Mr. Jason Wilson has begun that worthwhile work for the fellas.
@Shedaash – LOL, It in fact was H-Town!
I agree. Was it not H-Town who song, “emotions make you cry sometimes.” Anyone one with the ability to feel emotions can relate.