As children we are often taught to be humble, one of our first lessons in life. However, not so often are we taught so thoroughly how to be proud and outwardly confident in who we are, as this tends to upset society’s goal for “sameness”. We are taught that too much self-confidence offends or highlights the lack of self-love/awareness in another. As if to say that two stars cannot shine simultaneously, or that our own outward expression of self-love prevents another from loving themselves in the same way? Make any sense? *raised brow*
( BEYOND BRACELET SET )
There is nothing wrong with being confident in who and what you are even if that makes those around you uncomfortable within themselves. How they feel is ultimately of their choosing and bears no weight on your shoulders. You ARE the person that life has called you to be, remember, that no amount of downplaying or humbling yourself will ever lift another person from a place of self-loathing or self-doubt. This is work that belongs to them and them alone. Your focus is better served on the things that bring you joy and coming to love yourself so thoroughly that no one could ever make you doubt your own self-worth…and shouldn't THIS be the goal?
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Especially in upbringing, being good and humble is switched with being docile and it’s never corrected. Think about it and you were rewarded for going with the flow in silence. How asking questions is met with chastisement and/or punishment. It’s a sad truth many carry into adulthood then wonder why being a good person is never enough. When in reality, they are just docile never learning the difference.
I see both confident and humility working together. I believe it to be a balance. I like the analogy, “as if to say two stars cannot shine simultaneously…” I do believe those parents that focus so much on humbling the child should do more on esteeming the child and teaching them to love who they are but be humble also. I see confidence as one of those things that was broken among some people, who only learn later how important it is to have it and maintain it, oh, first recognize what it is. This is a good topic!
Absolutely amazing!!!